Picture this. A thirty-something year old woman, dressed casually sleek in a crisp white button-up and raggedy jeans. Her gold plated Cartier LOVE bracelet glistens in the morning light as she sips on a chilled Mimosa. She crosses her legs and there’s a hint of red under the soles of her chocolate loafers. Her hair is swept into a loose bun at the nape of her neck, and her face is fresh with just a touch of blush. She’s busy peering through her tortoise shell Prada frames as she daintily types on her MacBook Pro.
Yeah, you can tell just by her appearance that this chic has got it going on.
But the real question is, what makes her “that b*tch?” Is it because she’s a label whore with a thirsty appetite for the finer things in life, or is it her unwavering relaxed personality and ability to always view life from a positive perspective? I guess it depends on whom you ask. It seems as though the younger generation associates labels/things with success, while the older generation view success as something totally different. Something more abstract and less concrete.
You won’t find this woman bragging about her salary, or her international excursions, or her S63 AMG, or her four thousand square foot home. Nah, those are not the things that get her blood boiling. You will hear her discuss humanitarian efforts that need addressing in her community and various mentorship opportunities she’s had. You may even hear her gush over a new love, or the wild nights she’s had with friends. She’ll talk endlessly about her career and her goals, and all the other things that evoke pure passion and heart. But you’ll never hear her mention her things, or compare herself to a woman less fortunate.
That’s what makes her that b*tch… in my opinion.
As women, we are the stewards of our families and our communities. It is so important for us to instill passion and fire and soul in the younger generation. It has taken a lot of us a long time to find ourselves. Why not create a shortcut for someone else? There will always be a new hot car to buy. There will always be a pair of badass shoes that we can or cannot afford. There will always be a piece of expensive jewelry to show off. But what about the other stuff? What about all the young women who grow up with no vision, and no purpose? We can no longer depend on the media to deliver the message that our girls so desperately need. Success is not easy and it’s not quick, and self-worth is not valued by possessions…but so many of our young women think that it is.
It’s our responsibility to change the perception, to redefine what it means to have it going on. A movement is what’s needed. And I don’t mean that we have to rent out a conference space and give this grand dialogue to one thousand teens, it can be as simple as watching what type of message we put out into the world. If we all become aware of our messages, we will indeed create a shift one girl at a time. That’s a real movement.
We can all be that b*tch, but for so many reasons other than the obvious.