We live in a superficial society. Nowadays, having longer hair, a pointier nose, a slimmer belly, or a bigger butt is only a VISA swipe away. Back in my mama nem' days, if you weren't blessed with "good hair" or lighter skin (some people are still hung up on this) you weren't considered beautiful, maybe pretty at best.
In the African American culture, it is so refreshing to see campaigns such as: My Black is Beautiful, Black Girls Rock, and Black Girl Magic embrace and celebrate the beauty and uniqueness of all African American women.
Some seven or eight years ago, my friend girl and I owned and operated a very forward-thinking online magazine for all women. One month, we featured an article titled, "Pretty, Beautiful, Cute". The article basically defined stereotypes associated with being pretty, beautiful, or cute. We found that most people viewed women who are outwardly attractive as pretty or cute. Women who are appealing internally and externally are labeled as beautiful. In lamen terms, someone who resembles Halle Berry with an ugly personality would never be considered beautiful...according to the people we surveyed.
That explanation brings us to the core of this post. What does it mean to be a "Beautiful Nightmare"? I would describe this type of woman as an attractive female physically. We each own our individual opinions of what attractive is, but by every sense of the word, this woman is easy on the eyes. However, she's either mean-spirited or just crazy as hell. There is nothing more unattractive (my opinion) than a woman who is constantly complaining, keeping up a bunch of drama, and just causing havoc to herself and those around her.
This type of woman will never reach her full potential because she is always focused on negativity. She's a sight to see, but a pain to be around. As women, there are so many things that can knock us off our game emotionally. It's important as a #thirtysomething woman that we are mindful of our energy (the kind we receive and the kind we give off). Think of a woman who by societal standards wouldn't be classified as beautiful, yet her spirit is so electrifying that you find yourself immersed in her aura. Wouldn't you label her as beautiful?
Let's all take the challenge to pamper, cleanse, contour and highlight our souls the way we do our external features. No matter what color you are, how old you are, or where you come from...having a beautiful soul will take you places that glam cannot.